समझदार व्यक्ति को हमेशा मालूम रहते हैं इन 6 प्रश्नों के उत्तर

आज के समय में अधिकांश लोगों को धन संबंधी सुख पाने के लिए अतिरिक्त श्रम करना पड़ता है। फिर भी बहुत ही कम लोग अधिक श्रम के बाद भी पर्याप्त प्रतिफल प्राप्त कर पाते हैं। व्यक्ति को कुछ कामों में तो सफलता मिल जाती है, लेकिन कुछ कामों में असफलता का मुंह भी देखना पड़ता है। यदि आप सफलता का प्रतिशत बढ़ाना चाहते हैं तो यहां एक चाणक्य नीति बताई जा रही है। इस नीति का ध्यान रखेंगे तो आपको अधिकतर कार्यों में सफलता मिल सकती है। हम जब ज्यादा कामों में सफल होंगे तो धन संबंधी लाभ भी मिलेगा और इस प्रकार धन संचय होने लगेगा।

चाणक्य कहते हैं कि-

क: काल: कानि मित्राणि को देश: कौ व्ययागमौ।

कस्याऽडं का च मे शक्तिरिति चिन्त्यं मुहुर्मुंहु:।।

 

यह चाणक्य नीति के चतुर्थ अध्याय का 18वां श्लोक है। इस श्लोक में चाणक्य ने बताया है कि हमें कार्यों में सफलता पाने के लिए किन 6 बातों को हमेशा सोचते रहना चाहिए। इन बातों का ध्यान रखकर काम करेंगे तो असफलता मिलने की संभावनाएं काफी कम हो जाती हैं।

 

पहली बात: यह समय कैसा है

 

आचार्य चाणक्य कहते हैं कि वही व्यक्ति समझदार और सफल है, जिसे इस प्रश्न का उत्तर हमेशा मालूम रहता है। समझदार व्यक्ति जानता है कि वर्तमान समय कैसा चल रहा है। अभी सुख के दिन हैं या दुख के। इसी के आधार पर वह कार्य करता हैं। यदि सुख के दिन हैं तो अच्छे कार्य करते रहना चाहिए और यदि दुख के दिन हैं तो अच्छे कामों के साथ धैर्य बनाए रखना चाहिए। दुख के दिनों में धैर्य खोने पर अनर्थ हो सकता है।

दूसरी बात: हमारे मित्र कौन-कौन हैं

 

हमें यह मालूम होना चाहिए कि हमारे सच्चे मित्र कौन-कौन हैं और मित्रों के वेश में शत्रु कौन-कौन हैं। शत्रुओं को तो हम जानते हैं और उनसे बचते हुए ही कार्य करते हैं, लेकिन मित्रों के वेश में छिपे शत्रु का पहचाना बहुत जरूरी है। यदि मित्रों में छिपे शत्रु को नहीं पहचान पाएंगे तो कार्यों में असफलता ही मिलेगी। ऐसे लोगों से भी बचना चाहिए। साथ ही, इस बात का भी ध्यान रखें कि सच्चे मित्र कौन हैं, क्योंकि सच्चे मित्रों की मदद लेने पर ही सफलता मिल सकती है। यदि गलती से मित्र बने हुए शत्रु से मदद मांग ली तो पूरी मेहनत पर पानी फिर सकता है।

तीसरी बात: यह देश कैसा है

 

यह देश कैसा है यानी जहां हम काम करते हैं, वह स्थान, शहर और वहां के हालात कैसे हैं। कार्यस्थल पर काम करने वाले लोग कैसे हैं। इन बातों का ध्यान रखते हुए काम करेंगे तो असफल होने की संभावनाएं बहुत कम हो जाएंगी।

चौथी बात: हमारी आय और व्यय की सही जानकारी

 

समझदार इंसान वही है तो अपनी आय और व्यय की सही जानकारी रखता है। व्यक्ति को अपनी आय देखकर ही व्यय करना चाहिए। जो लोग आय से अधिक खर्च करते हैं, वे परेशानियों में अवश्य फंसते हैं। अत: धन संबंधी सुख पाने के लिए कभी आय से अधिक व्यय नहीं करना चाहिए। आय से कम खर्च करेंगे तो थोड़ा-थोड़ा ही सही पर धन संचय हो सकता है।

 

पांचवीं बात: मैं किसके अधीन हूं

 

हमें इस बात का ध्यान रखना चाहिए कि हमारा प्रबंधक, कंपनी, संस्थान या बॉस हमसे क्या चाहता है। हम ठीक वैसे ही काम करें, जिससे संस्थान को लाभ मिलता है। यदि संस्थान को लाभ होगा तो कर्मचारी को भी लाभ मिलने की संभावनाएं बढ़ जाती हैं।

अंतिम बात: मुझमें कितनी शक्ति है

 

अंतिम बात सबसे जरूरी है, हमें यह मालूम होना चाहिए कि हम क्या-क्या कर सकते हैं। वही काम हाथ में लेना चाहिए, जिसे पूरा करने का सामर्थ्य हमारे पास है। यदि शक्ति से अधिक काम हम हाथ में ले लेंगे तो असफल होना तय है। ऐसी परिस्थिति में कार्य स्थल और समाज में हमारी छबि पर बुरा असर होगा।

 

 

 

स्टीव जॉब्स की जिंदगी से हम सीख सकते हैं ये 5 बातें

 एप्पल के सहसंस्थापक स्टीव जॉब्स की कल  चौथी पुण्यतिथि थी । जॉब्स का निधन 5 अक्टूबर 2011 को हुआ था। अपनी इनोवेशन और दूरदर्शिता को लेकर जॉब्स हमेशा से प्रसिद्ध रहे हैं। 

स्टीव जॉब्स ना सिर्फ एक अच्छे लीडर थे बल्कि एक अच्छे इंसान भी थे। जमीन से उठकर आसमान तक पहुंचने वालों की लिस्ट में स्टीव जॉब्स का नाम है। आज उनकी पुण्यतिथी पर हम आपको बताने जा रहे हैं कुछ ऐसी बातों के बारे में जो स्टीव जॉब्स की जिंदगी से सीखी जा सकती हैं। 

1. अपने लिए अच्छे शिक्षक तलाशिए-

स्टीव जॉब्स ना सिर्फ जीनियस थे बल्कि वो हमेशा उन लोगों की तलाश में रहते थे जिनसे वो कुछ ना कुछ सीख सकें। जॉब्स के कुछ पहले टीचर्स में से एक रेजिस मैक्कैना (Regis McKenna) थे जो सिलिकॉन वैली में एक मार्केटर थे। रेजिस ही वो इंसान हैं जिन्होंने गैराज में चल रही एप्पल कंपनी के लिए पहले इन्वेस्टर का इंतजाम किया था। ये इन्वेस्टर थे माइक मार्कुला जो एप्पल के मार्केटिंग गुरू बने। स्टीव जॉब्स का सिद्धांत था कि जिस्से जो सीख सको सीख लो। 

कोई कमी ना रह जाए-

स्टीव जॉब्स जानते थे की प्रोडक्ट की खूबियों के साथ पैकेजिंग भी बहुत जरूरी है। वे जानते थे कि लोग किसी भी उत्पाद या कंपनी को लेकर अपनी राय उस प्रोडक्ट या कंपनी की प्रस्तुति या पैकेजिंग के आधार पर बनाते हैं। जॉब्स कहते थे कि माइक ने मुझे सिखा दिया था कि लोग किसी पुस्तक को उसके कवर से ही सही या गलत समझने लगते हैं। जब वे मेकिनटोश की 1984 में शिपिंग करा रहे थे तो वे उसके बॉक्स के कलर और डिजाइन पर मोहित हो गए थे। इस बात से हम ये सीख सकते हैं कि किसी भी काम में कोई कमी नहीं छोड़नी चाहिए। चाहें वो शुरुआत में हो या अंत में। 

हार से कभी ना डरें-

स्टीव जॉब्स ने अपनी जिंदगी में जितनी सफलता देखी उतनी ही हार भी। 30 साल की उम्र में जॉब्स को उन्हीं की बनाई गई कंपनी से निकाल दिया गया था। एप्पल कंपनी ने भी अपनी सबसे ज्यादा असफलता स्टीव जॉब्स के कार्यकाल में ही देखी। मौत से 8 साल पहले ही उन्हें कैंसर का पता चला था। स्टीव जॉब्स ने इसे भी दिलेरी से स्वीकार किया और अपने जीवन को भरपूर जिया। इस बात से हम सीख सकते हैं कि जिंदगी में चाहें कुछ भी हो जाए हार नहीं माननी चाहिए। 

अपने निर्णय पर रहें अडिग-

जॉब्स ने 1984 में मैकिनटोश कम्प्यूटर के लिए एक एडवर्टिजमेंट बनवाया था। वो शो बिजनेस के इतने दीवाने थे कि उन्होंने इस एडवर्टिजमेंट को बनाने के लिए एलियन और ब्लेड रनर फिल्म के डायरेक्टर रैड्ली स्कॉट को चुना था। इस 60 सेकंड के कमर्शियल को बनवाने में जॉब्स ने $900,000 (55395000 रुपए) खर्च कर दिए थे। इसके बाद उस ऐड को सुपर बॉल गेम के दौरान चलाने के लिए $800,000  (49240000 रुपए और खर्च किए थे)। इस ऐड को बोर्ड ने पसंद नहीं किया था फिर भी ये ऐड चला और जॉब्स ने अपनी जिद पूरी की। इससे हम ये बात सीख सकते हैं कि चाहें जो भी निर्णय लिया गया हो उसपर हमेशा चलें और पीछे ना हटें। 

हमेशा एक दुश्मन की तलाश-

स्टीव जॉब्स ने हमेशा अपने प्रतिद्वंद्वियों को अपना दुश्मन माना है। एप्पल के लिए IBM, माइक्रोसॉफ्ट के बाद एंड्रॉइड ऑपरेटिंग सिस्टम बनाने वाला गूगल भी एक बड़ा प्रतिद्वंद्वी था। स्टीव जॉब्स हमेशा अपने लिए नया दुश्मन तलाशते थे। उनका मानना था कि दुश्मन बनाना खतरनाक तो हो सकता है, लेकिन ये ग्रोथ के लिए बहुत जरूरी है।

10 important lessons by Father of the Nation Mahatma Gandhi Ji

1.Humanity and faith
Gandhi said: "Have faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the whole ocean does not become dirty". His faith in the basic 'goodness' of people remained undeterred throughout his life, which remained largely in the midst of followers and opponents.
2.Be the change
While Gandhi turned an unlikely leader of something as massive as a freedom movement, it didn't happen overnight. The man he turned out to be, was a result of constant introspection and clarity that emerged from the process. He remained open to both sides of any argument and faced everything with a smile. No matter what the challenge was, his goal of 'Indian independence' remained clear. Like he said: "Be the change you want to see in the world." And what a change he was!
3.Preserving the self
Gandhi firmly believed he was in control of his emotions. Even during most disturbing occasions when an argument went awry with his supporters, or his friends, he would quietly retreat and revisit the discussion after having thought through. His friends vouched for this quality of his. He ensured the goal was in sight. And that ego wouldn't rule the roost. He often said: "no one can hurt me without my permission".
4.Forgive
He had imbibed the best of Indian philosophy. Non-violence was his strongest weapon, and so was forgiveness. He told the world often that forgiving was the quality of the strong, and not the weak. He didn't approve of those who wanted to avenge any injustice or crime. "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind" he said and liberated his fellow men from anger.
5.Practice what you preach
Advice is more easily available land or air today. Even a stranger is capable of telling a fellow passenger how to lead a life that the former may have never known. But, Gandhi firmly believed actions speak louder than words. He remained in control of both his actions and words. "An ounce of practice is worth a thousand words" is what he lived by.
6.Now is all that you have
An English adage says 'cross the bridge when it comes'. Gandhi lived by the essence of 'today' and not what fate would befall on him tomorrow. With the goal clearly before him, he would often look at what could be done now, than later. "God has given me no control over the following moment. I am concerned about taking care of the present" was his opinion.
7.Never say Never
He was well aware of the possibilities and limitations of human beings. He was magnanimous about all the people who came to him confessing their errors. He said once "It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err."
8.Stay on; don't give up
Challenges often encouraged him to go that extra mile, put in that extra effort and reach further clarity on how things were to be executed for the goal to be reached. Self-doubt often made him stronger and he came back renewed, rejuvenated and with bigger dreams than before for the country. "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win" he would say when asked if the challenges didn't bog him down.
9.Keep away the evil
Look for best qualities in people and grow with every person you meet. Taking stock of someone's lacunae will only make you poorer. Gandhi was aware that he wasn't faultless himself. "I will not probe into the faults of others. I only look for goodness in them" he reiterated often.
10.Coherence in thought and action
Happiness is where there is no conflict within self about what is preached and followed. There are no different rules for self and the world. Happiness is when your thoughts, actions and words align - this was something that he firmly believed in all his life.

A message to P.M from ENGINEERS

Sir we have done 22 years of hard work
commitments and with hope..our parents have
invested lakhs of rupees for our education..But
sir what is the use of it..Even after hard work
for such a long time we are unemployed..My
college dint even call up for a single company in
campus drive.
My seniors asked me to create account in
naukri.. But no use.. I only get updates for
b.p.o and tech supports..sir s.s.l.c is more than
enough to work in a b.p.o
Seniors then asked me to go in search of a job
myself..I did.. BUT companies today don't need
fresher's they only need experience candidate..
Companies are hiring fresher's only if they have
good reference..But I don't have reference or
influence :-I failed...
Then some people asked me to approach some
industries and to hand over my resumes to
hand it over to watch man's.. I even did that..
But watch man answers me that our company
has vacancies only for I.t.I and diplomas,we
don't need engineers..I failed....
Then some people suggested me to join some
consultancy..I even did that..consultancy
showed me a ray of hope. They arranged me for
a interview.. I went there..first question asked
by h.r was :- what wil u do from morning til
evening. I answered that I SEARCH jobs..he
laughed at me and suggested to join some
courses.. Okie..I even did that by investing
some more money to complete my dreams.
Then consultancy arranged me for one more
interview I went there...it was a small scale
industry.. I got selected in 3 rounds of
interview. .H.R offered me 8000 to 10000
rupees per month with a two years bond in a
metropolitan city where I at least need 10000
rupees to fulfill my basic needs has a
bachelor..Respected sir would u accept this
type of a job..I guess NO..
My friend who has secured very less marks
than me us working in a M.N.C wil a package
of 25000 because he had influence..
Sir we have invested lakhs and have done hard
work not to earn 8000.
we avoid attending family programmes not
because we have EGO but its because we don't
have job.. First question asked by relatives is
WHAT R U DOING NW..sir I feel ashamed to
answer this question..
Whenever I call my parents the first question
they asked me is DID U GET A JOB.I again feel
ashamed. .
I have to ask money from my dad atleast for
food and shelter.. This is the most worst
moment.. I feel ashamed.. One small request sir
if India don't have potential to give employment
stop giving license to new colleges..10 new
engineering college are been permitted every
year in my state.. Is that important.. Around 2
lakh students are joining for engineering every
year only in my state.. Y is that sir..I have lost
all my faith because I have gone through very
bad times and failures..
But I AM PROUD TO BE A ENGINEER.. This is
not only my story ..but every engineer who
don't have money and influence.. WE BADLY
NEED YOUR HELP...U R OUR ONLY HOPE SIR

story of courage.

What an incredible, inspiring true story of a soldier! Read on, as a brave soldier pays a fitting tribute to another.
Soldier of Fortune (The untold Story)

This is a story of courage.

A true story of incredible courage of a soldier, whom I've had the privilege of knowing. Someone, who would just not take "NO" for an answer, despite the challenges life threw at him. A story that needs to be told.

There is inevitably a strange, almost labored disconnect between the urgent, distinctive ‘pop’ of the speeding bullet as it whizzes past you and the apparently languid, disarmingly slow movement of those around you. A sardonic, yet glowing affirmation of the theory of relativity, if you will. Those who have been inactive combat and had the privilege of being fired at, would know. Deependra Singh Sengar did. More than once!

It was the day after Valentine’s Day, 1998. Sengar had just been received at the Guwahati airport by the unit’s escort team. At 5’6” and 52 kgs in weight, you could easily mistake him for the a postgraduate student at Guwahati University. Sengar was re-joining the unit in active operations in the North East - after weeks of pleading, screaming & struggling against the orders of Col Ivan Crasto, the Commanding Officer - to man the administrative rear echelon of the unit in a cosy, sleepy town in Himachal Pradesh.

That is who he was – a man of action. And men of action, as you would know, abhor routine admin jobs!

The first message he overheard, 15 minutes in transit, on the secured communication radio link was garbled. 5-6 senior militant leaders in a house, armed with automatics, pin point location, high credibility of info, apparent transit profile, likely to move out soon. The Quick Reaction Team (QRT) from the unit was starting out, but could hit target only in an hour. Sengar quickly realized that with a short detour, he could be at the target in 20 mins. Saving 40 mins could mean the difference between success and failure.

A flurry of messages later, Sengar had convinced the Battalion HQ that he and his escort team were best positioned to initiate contact with the militants before they disappeared. The QRT could follow. Now, escort teams are usually a rag tag team of whoever is available. Fully kitted out, sure – weapons, ammo, secured communication - the works. But still, certainly not the first choice of guys for going into combat with. But that didn’t deter Sengar. He swung in and hit the target in 20 mins, as planned. A short, sharp exchange of fire ensued. 2 reds down, 3 had fled.

It is then that Sengar realized that he had been hit. Two bullets had pierced through his abdomen, making a clean, almost unnoticeable entry in the front and a classic, disproportionate exit wound in his back. What they call in the medical world, rather disparagingly, a ‘clean’ shot.

The rest was a blur. The flurry of the evacuation process. Hand carried, on four wheel drive, by chopper, through the local hospital in the neighborhood, and then to the Base Hospital at Guwahati. The long, unending line of surgeries. Cut, sew & cut again. After about 15 days of chopping and pasting, the docs were confident of partial recovery in a time frame of about 18-24 months.

A miracle, they called it. But then, they hadn’t seen miracles - as yet.

Sengar was no pushover who could be tied down to a hospital bed. He was up and about in 45 days. He read books on his condition and realized that psychological recovery was as important as medical one. He started doing what was in his reach- whether strict army hospital rules allowed or not. Sneaking out of the hospital, hobbling along to the theatres to watch practically every movie worth watching. & some which didn’t fit even that bill. 60 days from that fateful day, a Unit officer was getting married. Sengar, attired in a Lungi & a kurta (he couldn’t wear anything else – the scars hadn’t yet healed), with tubes and bags (If you must know - A colostomy bag & a bag directly attached to urinary bladder) immodestly but practically hanging out of his modest frame, hired a car and travelled 5 hours one way to Dehradun.

“Huh? All this to attend a frikking marriage??", You might ask. Well, Sengar wasn’t the type who’d let anything – certainly not a little thing like 25 grams worth of random molten lead that burnt independent, solitary furrows through his intestines - come in the way of having the pleasure of seeing one of his mates being led, willingly to the gallows!!

Sengar hated hospitals. Much to the deep dismay of a bevy of nurses there. He was back in the unit by early May, 98. The docs, fed up with his constant supplications to be released, grudgingly allowed him to get back to the unit, with the solemn promise that he would not exert himself, and stay confined to the unit HQs (chuckle chuckle).

Too difficult for someone who was called “Rocket” by the junior officers as Sengar was the recipient of the coveted "Dagger" in the Commando course, the one who was known for being one of the most physically fit officers and men.

Around this time, a training exercise was being conducted in the eastern sector and Sengar saw a chance to prove his fitness. He pleaded with Col Crasto to be allowed to get there, to ‘man the telephone’. Crasto finally caved in after Sengar was able to convince the doctors to pronounce him “fit” for active duty. Sengar had amazingly, defying every single precedent of recorded medical recovery in cases similar to his, convinced the docs to upgrade his medical category to SHAPE1.

He pleaded, struggled, nagged, nudged, begged, threatened, and resorted to blatant emotional blackmail of the vilest means known to be posted on the Eastern Sector.

In the middle of the exercise, news broke about the Kargil conflict and the unit was to airlift a team for the Kargil war. Sengar was back to doing what he loved best - back to action, leading a team. He led his team to capture Neelam post in the Kargil war, which was the highest post captured in the whole engagement by the Indian Army. By August 99, officially the Kargil war was over, but escalated engagements along the LOC still required the unit to stay in the area. And Sengar’s team was in the middle of action – again.

In Sep 01, Sengar was hit again.

A violent firefight with a group of freshly inducted militants. A burst of fire from an AK-47 tore through his upper thigh and hip. Bleeding profusely and his hip bone in tatters, we knew if we didn’t evacuate him in time, we’d lose him. A paratrooper in the Divisional HQ, a chopper pilot, who was on a routine training mission learnt of Sengar being hit. Without waiting for authorization, violating every rule in the book, flew in, he landed at a hastily secured patch at the base of the hill feature and evacuated Sengar to the hospital through a route not allowed for Indian aircrafts - Sengar reached hospital in 45 mins! A couple of more mins of delay, and he would have been history.

Back to the ‘cut n sew’ story; only, this time, it was more serious than the first. Sengar survived. Barely. He was transferred to Delhi’s super specialty Army hospital two months later and it was then, that his parents were brought to Delhi and the news broken. All this while he was told that he would recover and be back in action in a short time- It took him another month to finally learn from the docs their verdict – He would never walk again.

This was a body blow (pun unintended) even for Sengar. He decided to quit the Army. He had no interest in peddling files clad in the fabulous olives. Once he had waded through the rivers of emotion, which lasted all of 24 hours, he decided to take charge of his apparently fragile destiny.

Sengar started researching options of an alternate career path. He was 30, single and had the energy of a bull - or three. It didn’t take him long to realise that he needed to tame the beast called ‘CAT’ - the Common Admission Test, to take a shot at passing through the portals of the premier business schools.

As he did a SWOT analysis, he identified that his analytical skills weren’t what they once were. So, he decided to take on the task of conquering Arithmophobia – his paranoia of numbers. He got all the math books and diligently went through class four to class 12 books. Minor hiccups like the fact that he had to be carried from his hospital bed to the car, or the fact that they had to make special provision for him at the classes, so he could recline on an ad hoc chair and take notes didn’t bother him one bit.

Sengar took the CAT in Dec 2000. Based on his results, he got a call from 15 of the 16 B schools he had applied to - IIM (A), IIM (B), IIM (C), IIM (L) …. A veritable who’s who of the B school list. Four days after he hung up his beloved Olive Greens, he got married. Eight days later, he joined the Indian Institute of Management, Ahmedabad. Two brilliant years of number crunching analysis later, Sengar graduated with distinction - on crutches.

Today, Sengar is a top management professional with Microsoft, in Singapore with a doting wife and two wonderful kids. If you thought that’s the final update on his story, wait, because, there is one final flourish.

After ten long years on crutches, Sengar decided he had had enough. He chucked his crutches into a corner & decided to rough it out. Slowly, and with tremendous perseverance, he started walking. In under a year, he was going for short jogs. In Sep 13, on a trip to India, he decided to revisit his old unit. He got in touch with the Commanding Officer, who invited him to go for a run with the unit in the standard Battle Physical Efficiency Test- with loaded backpack and a weapon. And Sengar did.

The ‘Rocket’ had returned. To a hero’s welcome.

who are you ..???

You’re an original, an individual, a masterpiece. Celebrate it!

Don't change yourself and don't let your uniqueness make you shy. Don't try to be someone else.. Just be like you.. the way you are.. the way you live...the way you talk...the way you smile..the way you laugh..never think and spoil your mood on what others are saying about you.. let them be..

Everyone has their own dreams, their own struggles, and a different path that makes sense for them.

You just live your life at fullest and try to find happiness in every small thing, action you do in a minute...

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दूसरों को लिए खुद को न बदलें I

मेढक को अगर पानी से भरे बर्तन में रख कर गर्म करना शुरू किया जाए तो एक रोचक और दिमाग को झकझोर देने वाला मंज़र देखने को मिलेगा I जैसे जैसे पानी का तापमान बढ़ेगा मेढक उस तापमान के हिसाब से अपना शरीर समायोजित करने लगेगा I पानी के क्वथनांक में आ जाने तक ऐसा चलता रहेगा I मेढक अपनी सारी उर्जा पानी के तापमान से अपने शरीर को समायोजित करने में लगा देगा ------

पर जैसे ही पानी अपने क्वथनांक (बोइलिंग पॉइंट) में आयेगा, मेढक अपने शरीर को उसके अनुसार समायोजित नहीं कर सकेगा और वो पानी से बाहर आने की कोशिश करेगा, पर अब ये संभव नहीं है ----

क्यूँ ?

क्यूंकि मेढक ने अपनी छलाँग लगाने की क्षमता के बावजूद उसने सारी ऊर्जा वातावरण के साथ समायोजन स्थापित करने में खर्च कर दी I वो पानी से बाहर नहीं आ पायेगा और मारा जायेगा I

पर मेढक को मारता कौन है ?
उबला हुआ पानी ?????????

नहीं !!

मेढक को मार देती है उसकी असमर्थता या कह लीजिये निर्णय लेने की अक्षमता कि पानी से बाहर आने के लिये कब छलांग लगानी है I इसी तरह हम भी अपने आसपास के वातावरण और लोगो के साथ सामंजस्य बना के चलते रहते हैं और कभी कभी ये सामंजस्य हम पर ही भारी पड जाता है, जब लोग ये समझना शुरू कर देते हैं के हम कुछ भी करे ये तो एडजेस्ट कर ही लेगा और हमारी भी आदत हो ही जाती है I धीरे धीरे हम प्रतिरोध करना भी बंद कर देते हैं, या फिर यूँ कहे की हमारी प्रतिरोधात्मक क्षमता खतम हो जाती है I
सब के जीवन में कोई न कोई ऐसा होता है, जिसके लिए हम लगातार खुद के साथ सामंजस्य बनाते रहते हैं । स्वभावतः ये हमें अच्छा नहीं लगता पर कोई न कोई मजबूरी हमें ऐसा करते रहने के लिए प्रेरित करती रहती है और हम अपनी सारी उर्जा इसी में खर्च करते रहते हैं पर जब पानी अपने क्वथनांक (बोइलिंग पॉइंट) में आता है तब हमारे पास बाहर निकलने की क्षमता नहीं रह जाती, और हमारी हालत उसी मेढक की भाँती हो जाती है जो पानी के तापमान के साथ खुद को एड्जस्ट करता रहता है......

पर इसका उपाय है

हमारे द्वारा लिया गया एक दृढ़ निर्णय की ऐसी परिस्थिति और लोगो से कब और कैसे दूर जाना है.....

• जो आपकी मानसिक शांति भंग करे, उसको अपनी
जिंदगी से तुरंत बाहर करें I
• दूसरों को लिए खुद को न बदलें I
• किसी और की पसंद के लिए अपनी पसंद की
तिलांजलि मत दें I
• सामंजस्य बनाने की आदत लग ही गयी है तो अपने
परिवार के साथ बनाये।