Almost 14 million couples in the world are believed to be in
long-distance relationships, with the average distance between each
couple being at least 200 kms. You may wonder why these people would be
willing to put themselves through so much when they could easily find
someone in their own city to be with. The truth is, while at least 70
per cent of all long-distance relationships fail, there is still a
chance that some of these people would be among the remaining 30 per
cent. And that’s a good enough reason for anyone to want to make it work. All you need is love, along with these 14 reasons that make being in a long-distance relationship so worth it!
1. You Talk It Over
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The one thing you can absolutely do before you enter into a
long-distance relationship, is really talk. Not just the small talk, but
figure out what each of you wants, or expects from each other. The fact
that you’re miles apart from one another means you don’t want to waste
time and lead each other on when you could be busy doing other things.
It’s the initial conversations that the two of you have that determine
where you want to take this.
2. You Get To Travel Together
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Who doesn’t enjoy travelling to new places? Thanks to your new
relationship, you now have an absolute legit reason to travel for
reasons that have nothing to do with work and everything to do with
pleasure. And why just limit yourself to her town, or city? You could
even meet halfway and explore other cities that you haven’t been able to
before. Travelling together is one of the best ways to discovering your
own self, as well as each other.
3. You Really Miss Her
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Not like when you’re randomly saying how much you miss each other;
but actually missing her presence in your world at that very moment.
When you’re going through something life-changing and can’t wait to
share it with her and realise in that moment that, guess what, you wish
she was with you. Or when you’re talking and you feel the sudden urge to
hug her or kiss her for no reason other than the fact that you really
just want to hug, or kiss her. Helps to get clarity about your feelings
too, eh?
4. You Value Time
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Because of the nature of your relationship—where you get to meet each
other only once in three months, or once a month (if you’re really
lucky). And so, you understand that this limited time is all you have
and you want to make the most of it before it runs out. You’re on a
‘No-Holds-Barred’, ‘No-Regrets’, trip where you want to open your heart
out to her, let her in and enjoy every precious minute spent with her.
5. You Get Your Own Space
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Often, we find ourselves struggling not to lose ourselves in a
relationship. That never happens when you’re in a long-distance
relationship because you always have enough time for yourself. In fact,
you have mastered the art of balancing your life with your love so well,
you don’t see why others whine. You get your own space to do the things
you want without turning on her, or getting tired of her. You have
fixed timings for calls and video chatting and you text whenever you
can, and no one is hovering over you the entire time. You know what
freedom feels like.
6. You Do Corny Shit
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It’s true; there’s no use denying it. The fact that you’re away from
her and really feeling the love makes you want to go to the moon and
back with her. And it’s not something you just say to get laid because
you know you can’t. It’s from the heart and you mean it, which sometimes
surprises you too.
7. You Communicate
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From her time of the month to your financial crunches, you’ve
conquered them all. In order to compensate for the distance, you
communicate over the phone more. Yes, there are differences of opinions
and arguments, like in every other relationship. But, you’ve been able
to sort it all out and have a moment of clarity. You don’t have to worry
about the spark in your relationship going because somehow, talking
about everything and nothing strengthens your relationship and increases
your respect for each other’s opinions.
8. You Love Surprising Her
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You never thought you would say that but, well, when it comes to her, you do. You constantly send small
gifts
to remind her that she’s constantly on your mind. It’s the little
things that show her you care about her and since you can’t always be
there, you make a note to really listen when she’s talking, and memorise
the stuff she likes so that you can later surprise her with it. And
sometimes, you send yourself over, too!
9. It’s More Than Physical
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Unlike in any other relationship where sex is usually a given at the
end of every romantic moment you’ve spent together, it’s different in a
long-distance relationship.
Even if the two of you are at your horniest best, it almost never
culminates in sex. It’s frustrating, yes, but you learn to accept and
enjoy the experiences anyway. This also makes you realise that
sometimes, there are more important things in a relationship than just
sex.
10. You Learn To Be Patient
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Most men aren’t too familiar with that virtue (stop frowning at me,
it’s true). But when you’re in a long-distance relationship, you learn
to master the art. You have no other option. You learn to program your
brain to wait it out and all the while you build up the excitement for
the right time because the anticipation and the eagerness has a sweet
reward at the end of the wait, say the next time you meet her.
11. The Romance Never Gets Old
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Every meeting is like the first meeting. Every date is like the first
date, and every touch feels like the first touch. Your relationship
never gets old, stale or stagnant, period! Your friends don’t quite get
it but, they’re just not supposed to anyway.
12. You Become An Expert at Planning
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You’ve learnt to manage meetings with monthly offs and weekend trips
to visit her. You’ve got it all worked out for a period of six months to
a year. In fact, you have a separate calendar that runs on relationship
time.
13. You Are An Independent Individual
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You’re not reliant on her availability, just like she is not thriving
off your social circle. The two of you have a life of your own and you
have your priorities well sorted out so that you don’t have to worry
about falling into the rut of dependency on one another. Your
relationship is secure and stable.
14. Your Relationship Is Strong
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You observe how many of your friends have broken up and entered into
more relationships over a span of a year while yours is still going
strong. You’ve weathered distance—which, really is the
hardest—arguments, insecurities, time and financial crises together and
you’re still together, with no signs of breaking up any time soon.
“ जो लिखा होगा वो होगा !” . ये एक ऐसा statement है जो भारतीय घरों में आम है . इसी बात को लोग और भी कई तरीकों से कहते हैं , “चाहे कुछ कर लीजिये जो किस्मत में होगा वही मिलेगा ….” , “ समय से पहले और भाग्य से ज्यादा कभी किसी को कुछ नहीं मिलता ….”, “ सब पहले से तय है ऊपर वाले ने जो लिख दिया वही होगा …” and many such versions.
