23 Horrible Responses You Could Get When You Say ‘I Love You’

Everyone who says "I love you" are the three most magical words ever have obviously never faced a rejection. And even if they have, it was obviously not one of these horrible, horrible ones. Unfortunately though, not all of us are as lucky as that. Here are just a few of the absolute worst; what-am-I-supposed-to-do-now responses to "I love you" that make you realise those words aren't all that magical after all.

9 Valuable Skills You Need To Have To Survive In This Big, Bad World

You need a game plan to survive in this big, bad world, or else you will fail to make the cut. Here are 9 skills to get you through the rat race called life.

1. The art of convincing.

You need to be shrewd to convince someone to do the work you need them to. Whether it’s pitching an idea or selling a product, you need to have/develop the knack of convincing people to do so.

                             

2. The ability to say 'no'.

                                 

‘No’ is such a difficult word to say. The two-letter word looks small but you cannot underestimate its power. You require a great deal of courage to stand by your opinions and say ‘no’. Being assertive is often misunderstood for being prudish. However, saying 'no' at the right time shows that you have got your s**t together and that you don’t care for others' opinions.

3. Listening patiently.

                                  

Have you ever noticed the traits of highly successful people? One of them is listening before talking. They listen carefully to what the other person has to say and then, only then, do they think and reply. Listening needs a lot of patience. Sometimes, it’s harrowing to keep your mouth shut and listen to the other person talking continuously. But if you do, you'll be closer to gaining the respect of that person.

4. A good sense of humour.

                                     

Nobody likes a person who doesn’t like to laugh. Being an unhappy person is not going to help you attract positive people in your life. Therefore, make people laugh with your good sense of humour, and then you won't be forgotten.

5. Being aware.

                               

Being vigilant about what’s happening around you will not only make you smart, but also a responsible citizen of your country. By keeping abreast of news and information, you will always go ahead in life.

6. The ability to express yourself freely.

                               

Are you the student who raises his hand and asks questions, or the student who keeps mum thinking that his questions are foolish? If you’re the latter, then let me tell you that expressing your doubts and opinions will only make you richer in knowledge and experience. Expressing your opinions without feeling shy or timid will open doors to great knowledge.

7. The art of not giving a f**k.

 

And by that I mean, caring less about what others think, and doing what you want to do. Once we stop giving importance to unnecessary things, life changes for the better. It’s all about doing your own thing and knowing your game. Not giving a f**k doesn’t mean that you have to be rude. It just means being comfortable with who you are.

8. Being pretentious.

                             

Sometimes we have to smile even when we don’t want to. Sometimes we have to talk even if we don’t need to. Well, however much you hate pretending, you've got to do it to keep others happy. But moderation is key, else there are dangers of losing your identity.

9. Adaptability.

                            

The wise Charles Darwin told us, "It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent , but the one most responsive to change. Adjusting to the conditions, instead of running away from them makes you strong in the biggest race of survival called life."

Things Mentally Strong People Do

These are the most comman mistake first-time entrepreneurs

1. Keeping your idea secret.
This is one of the most stupid misconceptions about startup ideas (If I tell it to someone they'll steal it and make millions of it) Reality is that every loser has a business idea with a potential but most are not capable to execute it. And people who are able to execute ideas have plenty of their own. Of course, it's the execution not the idea - facebook came after friendster and myspace and google came after plenty of search engines.

2. Trying to build a product for everyone.
He who tries to please everybody, pleases nobody.

3. Lack of focus.
All entrepreneurs are cursed with having too many ideas that are too tempting not to be executed. The point is to be able to put everything else aside and focus on one with best timing and most potential. Jack Dorsey mentioned somwhere that he had his Twitter idea almost a decade before he started it and put it in shelf - which is his way of clearing distractions.

4. Ignoring cash-flow.
As already mentioned in many answers confusing cash-flow or ignoring it is surest way to fail.

5. Quitting too early + not failing soon enough.
Quitting and failing are 2 different things. Failing soon is about not wasting time (or falling in love) with features once you have enough evidence they aren't going to make profit - you should seek that evidence all the time. Quitting on another hand is giving up to circumstances while knowing that what you are doing can work and will make you happy.

6. Wasting time on what competition does.
I once got across a Tweet saying: "If you spend all your time looking at your competition your product will end up looking like competitions ass."

7. Picking the wrong co-founder and not having a shareholder's agreement in place.
Talking or wishing and doing are two separate things, when you are motivated and excited everyone feels like a winner. All people tend to overestimate themselves, however once it comes to action many back off or find reasons and excuses to go for the easy and safe route. Making sure you aren't giving equity to a "co-founder" before you get a proof is what shareholder's agreements are made for.

8. Issuing equity too early.
Many people you hire early on may only have a half-hearted commitment and ambitions on their own. Once I was going to offer small part of equity to an advisor and I had a chat about it with one experienced partner in a law firm. He told me:

"Why would you need an advisor who only does it for equity? Get people who are excited about your product and want to help out because of that excitement and belief in it, then after a year or more you can talk about equity."

Same thing with stock options, the ideal time frame should be around 5 years, if you give it to someone after 1 year of working they can simply walk away and take a free ride while you're working your ass off increasing the value of their stake.

9. Too many features - over complicating.
Everybody knows why Apple was so successful. Here's a quote from Albert Einstein that sums it up nicely:

"Any darn fool can make something complex it takes a genius to make something simple."
It's the simplicity not complexity that sells (and makes it hard to build)

10. Not seeking or using customer feedback.
"Well they may not tell you what you should build but they can surely tell what's wrong" - as Bill Gates believes.

Not Recommended? Here Is What To Do After That

Rejections hurt, especially when it from something you dream about, work hard for, they hurt even more when it is the nth time that you are getting rejected. Every candidate who suffers rejection in SSB, can very well relate to the sadness which comes after it. The candidates who do not get a chance to hear their chest numbers in those lucky to be officer list, know that the next few days are going to be difficult. But it is not the end of the world, though it is end of one SSB and to you both seem like same thing at that time. Here’s is to what should follow after getting rejected from SSB:


There is no point cribbing about the selection system, it is not going to change, so you need to stop doing that first. Stop being critical about the selection system.

Yes that candidate who got selected did not deserve it, but still got through, and see here you are, having all the qualities oozing out still not recommended. But you can’t do anything about it, again stop comparing and looking critically as to who got selected.

No board is a rejection board. They want you as much as you want that job. Keep the myths away. Many people will tell you many things, need not believe everything.

Repeaters have a hard chance, no, absolutely not. If you have chances ahead it is never the end, you can try with better preparation every time again.

The earlier you stop thinking about your previous SSB, the better. Old bad things need to go for new good things to come, but they should go only after leaving the lesson. So draw the lesson out of your attempt.

See the positives, ignore the negatives. See the good things you learnt after going to SSB (for me it was learning to play pool), which you would have not learned otherwise, it’ll fill you with good thoughts.

Be happy for the candidates who got selected, learn positive things from them, congratulate them from heart. If you learn to be happy for others you reach an super level of awesomeness!

Sit down, analyze from day one, to the last day, write down the questions asked, your answers, it’ll help you later to understand what went wrong. Since everything is fresh you can remember now, but will be difficult later.

Note down all the important dates, for all the forms you need to apply for. Keep on applying for the new entries whichever comes up next. Never lose hope. Never give up, the quality of a true officer.

Start preparing for your next SSB. Seek for an expert help, if you feel it is needed. Be very wise before choosing any coaching. So do all the groundwork needed for preparation.

Falling down is easy, getting up is not. You need to really get up and put in all your efforts so that you can achieve your dream goal.

TGC 122, SSC Tech 46, AEC Apply Online From 18 June 2015

TGC 122, SSC Tech 46, AEC Apply Online From 18 June 2015. A good news for aspirants looking for TGC 122, SSC Tech 46 and AEC 2015 online application link. As per the latest update by the Indian army on joinindianarmy.nic.in, candidates can apply for TGC 122, SSC-Tech 46 and AEC from 18 June 2015 1000 Hours onward. Online registration link will be available till 17 July 1700 Hours. TES 33 notification was scheduled to open on 16th but got delayed again. We hope that Indian army will open TES 33 online registration link tomorrow along with TGC 122.



TGC 122, SSC Tech 46, AEC Apply Online From 18 June 2015

SSB Tips

GENERAL GUIDELINES FOR SSB 

OVERALL TIPS 

1. ENGLISH IS THE LANGUAGE OF THE DEFENSE SERVICES & IS IMPORTANT, NOT ONLY FOR SSB, BUT PROFESSIONAL ADVANCEMENT IN ANY FIELD.

2. GOOD GENERAL KNOWLEDGE, GOOD EXPRESSION, A FRIENDLY & HELPFUL NATURE WILL HELP A CANDIDATE GET SELECTED IN SSB & ELSEWHERE.

3. IF YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE SPEAKING IN ENGLISH, SPEAK FREELY IN HINDI OR HINGLISH. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS THE NEED, NOT ENGLISH LANGUAGE. GENERALLY THE PROBLEM IS LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE INDUCED BY LACK OF FLUENCY IN ENGLISH. 

    

   GENERAL GUIDELINES FOR SSB

   
   

   APPROACH TO SSB

   Group behavior starts as soon as you meet others at the SSB Centre.

    Candidates assess each other for their competence, as well as sociability. This process is unrelated to the formal assessment, but influences it.

   Please go for the SSB with the conviction of being selected, without any self doubts. This will positively affect your personality & influence others accordingly.
   

   Do not consider others as rivals, who have to be beaten, for you to be selected. Approach with a philosophy: “let us all perform well, & along with others, I should also get selected”. The usual philosophy prevailing in the world, “I should get selected at the expense of others” is unsuited for selection in SSB.

   Having good general knowledge, expression & a friendly nature positively impacts your social rating by peers, & will positively impact your chances of selection as well. It will have an impact on the tests as well. E.g In the group, before the tests, you start discussing some current affairs topic. Most of the group will have superficial knowledge, based on TV headlines news or news paper headlines. One or two may have deeper analytical knowledge based on their having read editorials on the topic. Naturally these candidates will be more respected by others.

   5 DAYS SSB SCHEDULE 

    

   DAY 1 (REPORTING DAY)

   As per the call letter, usually the reporting time is in the afternoon& place is Movement Control Office (MCO), located at the Railway Station. You will not find it difficult as there will be many other candidates who will be scheduled to report on the same day, & you are likely to find some of them.

   For some entries reporting day and Screening day are same, so please follow your call letters for correct information. In such case reporting time is likely to be early morning, like 0700 hours.

   On reporting day you are given a detailed brief about the tests & instructions & timings for various things. PIQ (Personal Information Questionnaire) forms are to be filled (similar to the one which I get filled).

   DAY 2. STAGE 1 TESTING OR SCREENING

   Screening is the process designed to select potential candidates, from all those who have reported for the particular entry, for Stage 2 of testing, or complete SSB process. It comprises the following:

   OFFICER’S INTELLIGENCE RATING (OIR) TEST

   It is similar to the intelligence tests of reasoning (verbal & non-verbal) given in various competitive examinations preparatory books & magazines. Reasoning ability, as well as speed of reasoning is important. It is advisable to practice these to get a good score.

   SCREENING TEST

   PICTURE PERCEPTION & DESCRIPTION TEST (PPDT)

   Requirement

   It involves two aspects- first is writing a story, & second is a discussion on the story.

   You will be shown a black & white, hazy picture for 30 secs.

   You are required to write some particulars in the available box in the answer sheet, which includes No of Characters, their Age, Sex & Mood.

   You have to identify the main character & build the story around him/her. It is convenient to name the character (helps in discussion stage).

   You are required to describe what the scene in the picture depicts (what is going on).

   You have to visualize & write, what led to the present scene (what happened in the past).

   You have to foresee the future & write it. (What will happen in the future).

   The entire story has to be written in about 3 mins & submitted.

   Tips for Story Writing

   Avoid

   Pre-prepared Story. Some coached candidates (generally ACC & SCO entries), come with a misconception that the time is too less to make a story & hence come with a pre-prepared story & fit it there. Often the main character in such stories is narrated as a young man who joins the Defence Services & also gets a decoration! There is nothing in the picture to suggest any of these things. There are several such “positive” coaching academy type stories which can be easily found out by the assessors. Such stories have an adverse impact on the clearance of the Stage 1 by the subject candidate.

   Stories Displaying Wrong Interpretation of Positive Thinking. Experience shows that quite a few coached candidates are over enthusiastic about “positive thinking” & display it in an unnatural manner in their stories.  E.g: In an obviously tragic scene such candidates will state that the mood of the main character is positive. Such stories can be easily found out & have an adverse impact on the clearance of the Stage 1 by the subject candidate.

   Abide

   Write a natural & realistic story that comes to your mind on seeing the picture. The moods, etc of characters should be stated as observed.

   POSITIVE THINKING MEANS THAT EVEN IF THE PICTURE SHOWS SOMETHING ADVERSE, OR TRAGIC, THE CANDIDATE FORESEES THAT IN THE FUTURE THINGS WILL BECOME ALL RIGHT, WITH THE MAIN CHARACTER PLAYING A PROACTIVE PART IN THE SAME.

   THE MAIN CHARACTER SHOULD BE PROACTIVE & DO SOMETHING FOR THE BETTERMENT OF THE EXISTING SITUATION.

   Discussion Requirement

   Candidates are organized in groups of 14-15 for group discussion. Each candidate is required to narrate his story by turn. After everyone has narrated his/her story the group is required to discuss the same & arrive at a consensus story. The group is required to nominate a leader who has to narrate the story on behalf of the entire group.

   Tips for Discussion:

   • Narrate your story confidently in a clear voice in about one minute.

4. Remain confident about being selected, remain relaxed & do not feel pressurized to force your views on others, in the fear that others will dominate you.

5. Never look at the assessors while narrating the story, or during the discussion.

6. Listen to the speakers attentively.

7. Be polite, give your ideas & views only, & do not argue with others.

8. IN CASE THE ENTIRE GROUP IS SHOUTING, AS HAPPENS IN SOME REPEATER GROUPS, DO NOT TRY TO OUT SHOUT OTHERS, BUT AWAIT YOUR TURN PATIENTLY.

9. Do not try to dominate the discussion by speaking more. The quality of your views is more important than how much you speak.

10. Do not repeat your views.

11. Help the weak members to talk.

12. If the story of the majority of the group is similar to yours, it is easy to contribute to the discussion.

13. In case your story is different from the entire group, it is sensible to change your views & help the group in forming a consensus story, rather than trying to guide the group towards your perspective.

    Results of Screening:  After the completion of PPDT, you will get a break of 2-3 hours. Screening results will be declared after it. Selected candidates are allotted with new chest numbers. Rest of the candidates gets their TA and dropped backed to the railway station.

     

    DAY 3 STAGE-2 OF TESTING

    PSYCHOLOGY TESTS IN SSB

    Understanding Psychology Tests in SSB

    Personality assessment conducted in SSBs is based on the science of Psychology. Psychology is not an absolute science, unlike the physical sciences known to us. It implies that there are not always absolute & definite yes, or no answers to problems, or situations.

    The battery of psychology tests conducted in SSB is based on Projective techniques.

      Projective techniques work on the established fact that when we describe ambiguous stimuli, we actually describe ourselves, & reveal our personalities, the conscious part (of which we are well aware) & even the unconscious part (of which we are unaware)! The unconscious part of the brain is assessed by some as being 9/10^th part & conscious only 1/10^th part.

    In Projective techniques, a person is shown ambiguous stimuli (such as words, situations or pictures) and asked to interpret them in some way. Such stimuli allow relative freedom in projecting one’s own interests and feelings into them, reacting in any way that seems appropriate. Projective techniques are believed to be sensitive to unconscious dimensions of personality. Defense mechanisms, latent impulses, and anxieties can be inferred from data gathered from projective techniques by expert psychologists. Assessment by expert psychologists is an art & not a science.

    Assessment of an individual is done based on the entire written tests & not piece meal, like separate assessment of WAT, TAT & SRT.  Personality of an individual is one whole, the various inputs help to construct it.

    HOW DOES IT AFFECT CANDIDATES?

    PLEASE DO NOT WASTE UNNECESSARY TIME TO PRACTICE ALL THESE TESTS. WORK TO GENUINELY IMPROVE YOUR PERSONALITY, LEAVE THE ASSESSMENT TO THE EXPERTS!

    Following  Psychology tests are  conducted:

        Thematic Apperception Test [TAT]

        Word Association Test [WAT]

        Situation Reaction Test [SRT]

        Self Description Test [SD]

    TAT

        You will be shown 11 black & white pictures in which the last picture is a blank slide. Each picture will come just for 30 seconds and then disappear, after that you will get 4 minutes to write the story based on that picture. After 4 mins another picture will come for 30 seconds and same process will be followed till last slide {blank slide}. The tips for TAT are the same as for the story of PPDT. Go prepared with the story for the blank slide.

    WAT

        You will be shown 60 words back to back; each word will remain on the screen for 15secs. In 15secs you are required to write a sentence which comes to your mind first after reading that word. Likewise you have to write 60 sentences continuously without any pause in between.

    Tips:

    It is not possible to go prepared with 60 sentences, as some coached candidates try to do & in fact succeed in writing quite a few such sentences. This does not help, because only the spontaneous response is consistent with the personality of the candidate. The psychologist analyses the complete responses to construct a holistic & consistent personality of the individual. Any prepared response will be inconsistent with the complete battery of answers & hence will get ignored.

        SRT

    You will get a booklet with 60 situations written on it. You are required to write your responses based on those 60 situations. Time allotted will be 30 mins.

    Tips: Answer spontaneously. The main character in the situations should be a leader, who should try to resolve the problems proactively for the betterment of everyone & not wait for things to happen.

        SD

    You are required to write opinion about you from your parents, friends, teachers & yourself, and things which you would like to develop in the future. Time allotted will be 15 mins.

    Tips: You should go prepared. Write the truth. Opinions of others, as well as yourself about you are basically a brief about your strong & weak points. The strong points should be more than the weak points. In case the reverse is true, it shows that you have not taken enough action to improve yourself, despite being aware of your weaknesses.

    OVERALL TIPS FOR PSYCHOLOGY TESTS

    THINK FAST; WRITE FAST, LEGIBLY & IN CORRECT SEQUENCE.

    IT IS NOT MANDATORY TO COMPLETE EVERYTHING, BUT THE CANDIDATE WHO CAN COMPLETE EVERYTHING DEFINITELY THINKS FASTER & HAS BETTER MENTAL STAMINA THAN THE ONE WHO DOES NOT.

    DAYS 4 & 5: GTO TESTS

    GTO tests are a series of outdoor tests, designed to judge your qualities during group performance. Remember most of the tasks in this series are group tasks. You are required to support the group with the best of your abilities and not to compete with them in any manner.

    SERIES OF TESTS:

        GD:

    Discussion is on two topics, one is a debatable topic from current affairs & the other is on a social issue.

    Tips: Are same as for PPDT discussion.

    GPE: GROUP PLANNING EXERCISE

    It is an important test in the GTO series. A situation is given to you. It is supported by a map. Invariably a group of persons has to go from one place to another, in a limited time & accomplish an important task. In between problems are confronted which need to be resolved, & in case a problem is unimportant & resolution will prevent  you from accomplishing the main task then it has to be ignored, or resolved to the extent that the main task is not jeopardized. A written, individual, solution has to be submitted. The group has to discuss the plan, arrive at a consensus plan, and nominate a leader to narrate the plan. It is a comprehensive test, which brings out the aspects of logical thinking, ability to convince others with your views, accept ideas from others which are better than yours, or are more acceptable to others.

    Tips: Concentrate to understand the situation well. Submit a comprehensive & well written plan. Be prepared to accept others’ ideas. Do not try to resolve any intermediary problem which will prevent you from accomplishing the main task.

        PGT

    In Progressive Group Task, the group is required to cross some obstacles with the help of supporting materials like rope, plank, wooden log etc. Some rules are required to be followed during this task. It is a full group activity.

        HGT

    Half Group Task is similar to PGT but the number of group members will be half, so you may get more chance to show your potential.

        IOT

    In Individual Obstacles Task, you are required to attempt 10 obstacles individually; each obstacle consists of some points from 1 to 10.

    Tips: It appears to be mainly a test of speed & strength, but is not so. Plan the sequence of crossing the obstacles with a view to score maximum marks earliest. If you are in doubt about clearing an obstacle attempt it towards the end. In case you have begun to cross an obstacle, then do not leave it in between, as this displays lack of determination & self confidence.

    COMMAND TASK

        You will be a commander in this task, & are required to cross some obstacles with the help of 2-3 subordinates. You can choose 2-3 candidates from your own group whom you think can help you to clear the obstacles.

    Tips: Choose subordinates based on competence, rather than friendship. In case you are stuck, ask ideas from subordinates. CT is assigned to each candidate based on his abilities. In case your CT is quite difficult, then be happy, your IQ has been well rated.

    SNAKE RACE/GROUP OBSTACLE RACE

         All group members will be competing with other groups. Members will be holding a snake like rope; they are required to cross certain obstacles with the snake. There are certain rules like all other tasks. It is a kind of race among different groups.

    Tips: Use your abilities to help the group finish the race fastest.

    INDIVIDUAL LECTURRETE

     Each candidate has to speak for 3 mins on a topic selected by him/her out of 3-4 topics.

    FGT: FINAL GROUP TASK

    FGT is similar to PGT.

    Tips for PGT, HGT, CT & FGT: Initially it will be difficult to understand the use of the helping material in crossing obstacles. Do not worry, keep thinking & observing. Ideas utilized in crossing one obstacle will have relevance in others as well.  After PGT you will have better ideas for later tasks. Each task has more than one solution. Please adhere to instructions.

    PERSONAL INTERVIEW IN THE AFTERNOON OF DAY 4 OR 5

    The Interviewing officer has your Personal Information Questionnaire (PIQ) form, which provides him the base for your interview. He starts talking in a relaxed manner to make you feel comfortable. He then asks you a series of questions to which you are expected to answer in the same sequence. He keeps asking small questions in between. He again asks you a series of questions, to be replied as earlier.

    Tips: Be relaxed & confident of being selected. Write only truth in the PIQ form, without exaggeration. Listen carefully to the questions, without getting excited. Answer the questions in the sequence asked. Have good knowledge about your favorite subjects, sports, hobbies, etc. If you say that you have read a book, or seen a movie, or TV program, then you should know about it well.

    Be prepared to explain organization of an event from your hobbies, sports or extra -curricular activities, you have been involved in.

    DAY 6: CONFERENCE IN SSB

    In the conference each candidate faces all the SSB assessors together. Decision about selection of candidates is taken in the conference by the assessors.  Each case is discussed in detail to take a deliberate decision. AS REGARDS YOU, IT IS JUST A FORMALITY, AS DECISIONS ARE TAKEN BASED ON TESTS CONDUCTED EARLIER & NOT CONFERENCE. Usually questions about food, experience & stay are asked by the Interviewing Officer. Only short answers are warranted.